A Mature Spirituality

Being in partnership with God as co-creators of our lives is active as well as passive and receptive.  But it is active in the details, not the overall picture.  We ask for the highest and the best for our lives, we repeat, “Your will be done,” and we focus on the step we take today.  In our partnerships we are not the partner with the grand vision; we are the ones who implement it and polish it.  Understanding those boundaries is the essence of maturity.


So, our activity follows our passivity and is directed by what we receive in our hearts, not from the constructs of our minds.  Our activity is like the one-year-old who toddles away from mom, looks back, touches her knee, and then explores the room again.  We are always checking in with God.  Have we lost our centers?  Are we coming from our hearts?  We monitor the temper and tone of our acting.  When we feel solid, we move and let it go. 

Maturity is not struggling.  It involves waiting and accepting our place humbly and following as we are led.  It also involves joy and excitement and energy.  But we don’t create that.  We are available and we receive.  Addiction is our effort to create what we know is missing instead of feeling its absence and healing our wounds.  Love addiction tries to create the oneness with another human that by rights belongs to our relationship with God alone.  Food addiction tries to erase the gaping hole we feel inside when we sense our lack of wholeness.  Substance abuse seeks to approximate the well being which is only solidly rooted in a mature spirituality.  All of these addictions are attempts to procure the result (oneness) without doing the healing work that is ours to do as humans on this earth.  

 Immaturity is trying to find satisfaction in something other than God.  We know we are not complete but we prefer to use our heads and our backs to find comfort instead of surrendering to the wisdom of our own unconscious to heal us.  Our minds are always looking for a solution instead of trusting the process that is us.   

Maturity knows when to wait and when to act.  Maturity is always connected.  Maturity doesn’t look for solutions but knows that commitment to the life process is the answer.  Maturity is what God asks of us.  Not obedience, not self denial, not arrogance, not success. Simple maturity. 

A mature spirituality is the only basis for partnership.  How can we partner with God if we are still identified with the Needy Child or the Driven Executive?  How can we even see God if our vision is blocked by identification with an unhealed part of ourselves?  Maturity is based on our allowing ourselves to be healed, not trying to make ourselves OK by our actions.  For it is in that healing process that we first partner with God.  We cannot heal ourselves.  It requires maturity to acknowledge that limitation and courage to allow God to work in us through our unconscious.      


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