My Best Friend

Stop!

Don’t do a thing. Just stand there. Or better, sit down and breathe. And luxuriate in being yourself. Just be.
Sounds great, doesn’t it?
So how come you don’t do it? Tell the truth. You say you want to, but it doesn’t happen. What’s that about?
Why are you always the last one on your list? You take care of kids, parents, friends, co-workers, clients, customers, and your next door neighbor. But when it’s your time (when is that?), you can’t stop. You don’t know what to do for yourself. You feel restless. Then guilt creeps in. Your mind details your endless To Do list. And at that point it’s easier to just get moving again.
Let’s rewind the tape. Go back to “. . . luxuriate in being yourself. Just be.” What’s it like to be yourself, right now, this second? Focus inside on a spot near your heart and breathe into that place. Be and breathe and let those pesky thoughts keep moving through your head. Notice them but let them go. Focus on your heart and your feelings this second.
Now is the moment to remember that who you are this second is fine. You are just who you need to be. You are enough. You do enough. What you have this second is enough for now.
No striving is necessary. Self-criticism is unwarranted.  Frustration is irrelevant. Who you are this second is fine.
Any voice that tells you otherwise deserves suspicion. So often we trust the self-hating voice and doubt our own value. I hope you wouldn’t hang out with someone who denigrates you. But we tell ourselves awful things all the time. And then feel good about having high standards for ourselves!
No matter what the heading--self improvement, growth, change--abusing ourselves is still abuse. We wouldn’t speak to anyone else the way we speak to ourselves.
The alternative to abuse is self-acceptance. Saying “Yes” to who we are this second. Not trying to be better or different.” Yes” to whatever exists inside us this second. We don’t judge what this is or criticize or analyze or dismiss. We say” Yes.” To what is right now, “Yes.”
That’s really what we want from a good friend, isn’t it. To be known and accepted? So, that’s the first step in being our own best friend. No matter what is inside me, I am on my side. “Yes.”


 
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